Anger Management

I met Ali online a month or so before we met in person. She seemed very nice, down to earth and intelligent (allegedly a doctor who finished her B.S. at 20). We met for coffee the first time and seemed to hit it off, talking for 2 1/2 hours before realizing how much time had passed. She seemed keen to know when I would be back in town, as I had just moved to a neighboring city. We met for dinner at a Bonefish Grill a couple weeks later when I was back for a weekend.

She was also interested in knowing where things were going with The Blogger at the time (I told her that I had been dating someone I was interested in). She mentioned during dinner about meeting "in the middle" as in (what I interpreted to mean) meeting halfway between where we lived. And she also mentioned me coming over to her place to check out some art. So even though I didn't find her particularly attractive (huge schnoz), I thought she was very nice with good values and I wanted to keep my options open in case I moved back to the area in the near future.

This calls for Rule #8--until you are in a committed relationship, NEVER make an apology or excuse for ANYthing. Nine times out of ten it will backfire on you, read on to find out how.

So I texted her this past Friday morning to check in (in keeping her "warm"), and I mentioned that I was sorry for not replying to her invitation to "meet in the middle" earlier. I told her I wasn't interested in any kind of long distance dating. She got impressively defensive (actually a bit nasty) and said she thought I knew after our first meeting that she didn't want to be more than just friends. So rather than get defensive with her I put together a sincere email (too much to put in a text) apologizing for misinterpreting her and stating I was fine with being friends. She sent a couple more texts by the end of the day and seemed to calm down. I was glad to have an additional friend who I could hang out with again.

Evidently she didn't get my email until two days later (last night), and grew even more incensed than she did after I sent the text. Keep in mind, my email ended with "forgive me for making a bigger deal out of it than it was, my intention was to do more good than harm in sending this email." Big mistake. She texts me with more hateful messages, telling me she does not want to be my friend, to delete her number and to never contact her again. She sent a total of 4-5 texts. I replied in between this barrage with "It's not the little things in life that matter ( :"

This morning I get an email stating "so I don't want to be friends with you and honestly have had no time to even respond to this" before continuing with a lengthy email containing bullet points about how wrong I was in thinking she was interested in me.

So as much as I wanted to simply delete her message once again without reacting, I couldn't help it and replied with:
"Did you say you DO or DO NOT want to be friends? After your 5 unsolicited texts last night and the silly soliloquy below, I am still befuddled." Some people are just mad at the world, what else do you say.