The Blogger, Cont'd

Okay, so I forgot to mention that the first time I met Andy was at a singles Meetup, at her request. She stated that it was a casual way to meet for the first time and it seemed logical.

I was one of the first people to arrive, in an upstairs room of a nice restaurant with a club-style atmosphere. I began chatting with 2-3 guys, and hit it off with one guy in particular (Carl). I confide that I'm actually there to meet a girl online. He said "really, so am I!" We soon find out that both girls were one in the same.

It didn't bother me at the time, even though I wondered if I was getting scammed somehow (Andy made a point to state that she did not work for the Meetup). Andy arrived with two other guys, and I approached her and we hit it off fairly well. She then introduced me to her two guy friends who I spent time chatting with as well.

I then excused myself and chatted with another girl in order to let Carl have his turn. He talked to her for about 5 minutes when a 30-something man abruptly approached their table, said something to Andy, then led her downstairs. "Huh," I thought. That was interesting. I went over to Carl to see what happened, and he was as dumbfounded as I was. We chatted for a bit more and I went on home, around 9:00. I got a text from Andy about 30 minutes later asking where I went. I said since she left there was no reason for me to stay, and she replied "but it's so early!" Evidently she wanted me to stick around for awhile.

So that brings us to the present, and after flaking out on me after Christmas Charlie finally confided that she had "sort of met someone" and was going to "see where it goes." I told her good luck and that it was good to see someone making progress with the online dating scene. This was over text, of course.

About a week later I get an email from her personal account (how she got my email address is beyond me because I never gave it to her; the site we used automatically forwarded emails using a secure return address) asking me to join a new Meetup group she just created. This was to be a "selective" group with just 15-20 people. I looked it up online and it had a chocolate and wine night listed, a trip to the Caribbean, etc.

This girl has no real job & no education, yet she dated someone in London for years and has fine tastes in clothes and restaurants. She looks like a model and my intuition told me she was using her looks to her advantage (or someone else's). The fact that some random guy abruptly pulled her away from a conversation at a singles meetup didn't help her case. Sometimes you gotta have pride and refuse to play the role of the Tool.

So I told her I'd think about it (complying with Rule #7-don't ever break off contact).